Living with the problem
Watching a friend spiral into addiction is painful. Trying to help can be extremely frustrating, especially if they are in denial about their problem. Your friend may react defensively and angrily to any suggestions that their drinking or drug taking is out of control. But ignoring the problem will only prolong the misery for everyone involved.
Thankfully, there is a solution
There is no quick fix or one size fits all solution for treating alcoholism and drug dependency. They are complex problems, with many related issues. Recovery is possible though. People in desperate situations have sought our help and gone on to full recovery and re-taken control of their lives.
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Continue reading for some of the more common issues surrounding loved ones and addiction.
Helping someone who doesn’t want help
Addicts will often go to great lengths to hide their problem. Whilst you may have tried to challenge their behaviour, and received an angry or defensive reaction in return, their denial and dishonesty only serves to fuel their addiction further. This is when professional help can make a crucial impact. We can provide a structured intervention programme that could make a huge difference to you and your friend. Please speak to us today for support and guidance.
When is the right time to help?
Addiction is a progressive illness. Leaving it to worsen, without help, is a course of action that we simply do not recommend. To avoid the potentially heartbreaking and traumatic consequences of addiction it is vital to secure early identification of a problem and to seek professional help as soon as possible. Don’t leave it until the person you are trying to help reaches their lowest ebb. The sooner they can get help, the more effective treatment will be and the quicker recovery could be reached.
How do I know if someone needs help?
The fact that you are reading this suggests suggests that you think that help could be needed. Our thinking is that if alcohol or drugs are costing someone more than money, then by definition, they have a problem and may need help to address an addiction.
If someone you know is drinking or using drugs in a problematic fashion, you may identify with the scenario described below.
I’m frustrated, hurt and upset
These are perfectly natural emotions in the circumstances. Dealing with the defensive denials, anger, manipulation and lies of an addict or an alcoholic can sap your energy. You might feel helpless and isolated, unsure of who to talk to or how to find a solution. You may even second guess yourself and question whether the person that you want to help has an addiction problem at all. Or, if they do, to what extent of a problem it has become.
You are not alone. Help for the helper is widely available. So please reach out for help. Not only for the sake of your loved one but for you too. Getting help for yourself may feel counterintuitive, but it can help you to understand the illness of addiction, and it sends a clear signal to the person that you are trying to help. It may even motivate them to address their problem.